Whenever we prepare for the coming new year we usually reflect on the previous year, at least I do. The one thing I’ve come to realize is that we tend to make new year resolutions that are external, just look at the top 5 new year resolutions.
1. Spend more time with family and friends
2. Get fit
3. Loose weight
4. Quite smoking
5. Enjoy life
Although these are good things to practice, I think there are more effective and long-standing resolutions to consider. For example, I think we are far too hard on ourselves. We all realize how important it is to forgive others and how by not forgiving them we harm ourselves. However, to be truly free we need to first look internally by forgiving ourselves. We NEED to forgive ourselves for allowing others to harm us, especially those we trusted and loved. We need to forgive our failures, weaknesses and not measuring up to whom we thought we were suppose to be.
We tend to have this false sense of self. We come from this place of brokenness, shattered families, marriages, failed relationships etc., and we tend to blame ourselves for how we have not measured up to our expectations. We need to let GO of the guilt, shame and the blame.
We need to break the cycle. What a great way to begin the new year by letting go, trusting that it will be okay. I recently had the privilege of ministering to a 16-year-old girl whose womanhood was crushed, depleted and severely abused. As a victim of this abuse, she blamed herself. She thought she failed herself and that she could have done something to make it better and that she was to blame for the horrendous crimes against her and the people she felt responsible for. The reality of the situation is that there was NOTHING she could have done to make it right! Everything about it was wrong!!! She was never to blame!!…..she was a victim of poor choices and wrong circumstances. There comes a time in all of our lives when we have to let go of the fear and preconceived notions of what we thought should have been and accept what was and let it go!!!
Do not allow what has hurt you to define you, instead allow it to refine you. Let it build character in you to build you into the best that you can be. Better than any force that came against you. When you stand up for what is right by principal and virtue, instead of standing by what may work in a paradigm of dysfunction is much more invigorating, victorious, healing and right. Sometimes holding on to the dysfunction is harder than letting it go.
I propose Jack Canfield’s suggestion to get 10 index cards and write on those cards ten goals for your future in 2014, thinking and dreaming BIG into what your soul’s desire is. What God believes you can achieve and not what the world limits you to and watching it unfold during this new year as you believe it will. You can do it if you allow yourself to?
God sees you so much differently than you see yourself. He loves you as if you are the only one. He waits for you to come to him vulnerable and raw. He has already forgiven you Isaiah 43:25 “I–yes, I alone–will blot out your sins for my own sake and will never think of them again.” Your God has a plan and a purpose for you. Isaiah 45:2 I will go before you and make the crooked places straight. If you look at the back of a tapestry it looks a chaotic mess, but he weaves a beautiful portrait out of it if you just turn it over. You can’t see the other side, but trust him to write your story and allow 2014 to be the year YOU turn yourself around and let the potter wield you into his unique and exquisite creation you were meant to be. DREAM BIG FOR YOURSELF! HAPPY 2014 !!