#7 STEPS TO BREAK THE CHAINS OF EMOTIONAL BONDAGE

Our thoughts can often become our obstacles, blocking us, from achieving true happiness and spiritual growth. We can become stuck in negative patterns, saying negative things about ourselves and others. We begin to grow angry and bitter, lashing out on the very ones we love. In essence, we are our problem, but the good news is, we are our answers and God heals. Here are seven simple steps to help you break the cycle of emotional bondage.

#1 MAKE PEACE WITH YOUR PAST~ We all have wounds from our past, and by repeatedly thinking about them we reconnect ourselves to the pain. By doing this we form an injustice to ourselves because this action keeps our wounds open, and our thoughts focused in the past, not the present. Forgiveness is about the forgiver and by forgiving what has happened, you allow the door to open again, cutting the strings that bind you to it and move you forward. In Isaiah 43:25 God reminds us that he takes away our transgressions and remembers our sins no more. So why is it, we have such a hard time doing the same?

When the past calls, let it go to voicemail, believe me, it has nothing new to say”~Unknown

#2 GIVE YOURSELF TIME TO HEAL~ For some reason, we tend to think that being vulnerable is a sign of weakness and avoid it like the plague, when in actuality, it is a sign of strength. We all have wounds from our past and some go deep, and if we do not stop and take the time needed to heal those wounds, we can’t turn them into battle scars of victory. Pretending that your injuries don’t exist, is damaging to your mental health and prevents you from being true to yourself. Emotional wounds can sometimes hurt more than physical ones, and they are equally important.

“Scars are not injuries, Tanner Sack.

A scar is healing. After the injury, a scar is what makes you whole.”China Mie`ville

“Only time can heal your broken heart, just as time can heal your broken arm or leg.” ~ Jim Henson.

#3 DON’T CONCERN YOURSELF WITH WHAT OTHERS THINK OF YOU~ Everyone wants to be liked and fit in it is part of our nature. Pretending your someone your not out of fear you won’t be accepted or liked sets you up for a standard you can never reach and a price you will ultimately pay. This action is called “people pleasing, ” and by doing this, you give your power to someone else and exhaust yourself in the process you continually look outward instead of inward. Living without integrity will make you miserable and depressed.

“Before you diagnose yourself with depression or low self-esteem be sure that you are not first, in fact, surrounded by assholes.” ~William Gibson.

Remember you were made to shine not to hide your light under a bushel basket Matthew 5:15,16.

#4 BE RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR OWN HAPPINESS~ The only person that can make you happy is YOU. Don’t look for someone else to complete you or “make or break” your day and affect your moods and don’t wait for situations to make you happy. Love yourself unconditionally, by accepting yourself right where you are, mistakes and all. Every day we have choices to make are we going to let these choices define us? Are we going to let situations fester in our thoughts all day disturbing our spirit? Ask yourself, will this be important to me tomorrow? In a week? In a month? Or in a year from now?

Isaiah 43:4 Since you are precious and honored in my sight, and because I love you

The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the- scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel.” ~ Steve Furtick

#5 DON’T COMPARE YOURSELF TO OTHERS~ We all have issues and situations in life, and no matter how good someone else’s life may appear, the grass is not always greener on the side. You may find, they don’t have grass at all, but synthetic plastic. We all have different talents and gifts, don’t envy those of others, appreciate and value your own. It’s through our various gifts that make us members of the one body of Christ. Corinthians 1:12 Surround yourself with people who are aware of your greatness. Believe in yourself and let your faith anchor you.

#6 STOP THINKING NEGATIVE~ You believe what you tell yourself, and there is unstoppable power in your thoughts and your words; they become magnified. If you look for the bad in people expecting to find it, you surely will.~ Abraham Lincoln. That includes you. Don’t look for the bad in yourself and don’t talk about it. Try to catch yourself in your negative thinking and reverse the pattern by replacing the negative thought with a positive one. Do the same thing when you speak ill of yourself counter it with something good. By doing this regularly, you will begin to break the cycle and change your stinking thinking.

#7 BE GRATEFUL~ St. Francis of Assisi, was someone who lived the joy of gratitude. He saw everything as a gift from God, and in doing so, he accomplished so many great things we are still talking about him today. Pope Francis is a perfect example of modeling behavior after St. Francis. He is living gratitude, and you can see it by the joy that he exudes when he serves others. Being grateful for your blessings on a daily basis changes you. When you see and feel your blessings, you cannot feel or notice anything negative. Counting your blessings on a regular basis changes you to the point that others see the change. The power behind a gratitude journal is the more we focus on our blessings, the more blessings we see. You start with one blessing and increase it by one each day and before you know it you’re writing off of the pages, and your negative thoughts are so far behind you that you remember them no more.

If you follow these seven steps and make them your daily practice, you will begin the process of breaking the chains of emotional bondage. Over time, by consciously repeating the steps, you will start to see small changes that increase every day. You will become more aware of your behaviors, bad habits, and responses, which means you are on your way in the process of life-altering change. Keep stepping into your best self and enjoy the freedom of being who you were intended to be.

It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery. Galatians 5:1

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  1. Thanks for the reminder, Dawn. I needed it.

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