IT’S PROBABLY SAFE TO SAY THAT WE ALL KNOW SOMEONE THAT HAS AN ANGER ISSUE. IT’S EVEN LIKELY THAT SOMETIMES THAT PERSON IS US. WE ALL EXPERIENCE ANGER, ANGER IS NOT THE PROBLEM, IT’S WHAT WE DO WITH IT THAT CAN BE A PROBLEM. RON ROLHEISER, IN HIS BOOK “THE SACRED FIRE,” HAS THIS TO SAY, “WRATH AND ANGER EXPRESS THEMSELVES MORE AS IMPATIENCE, BITTERNESS, AND A SENSE THAT LIFE HAS NOT BEEN FAIR TO US.” HMMM…..THERE SEEMS TO BE TRUTH IN THAT STATEMENT. CHECK OUT THIS EXAMPLE FROM SHELDON
ANGER USUALLY STARTS FROM OUR FEELING CHEATED OR THAT SOMEONE HAS BEEN UNFAIR TO US. THESE FEELINGS AWAKEN OUR EGO THAT FANS THE FLAME OF OUR SELFISHNESS, WHICH CAN LEAD TO DISASTER. ONCE WE LET THIS HAPPEN, OUR ANGER CAN SPREAD OUT OF CONTROL LIKE WILDFIRE HURTING EVERYONE IN ITS PATH. OUR ANGER MUST BE TEMPERED AND CONTROLLED BEFORE IT GETS THAT FAR. THERE ARE MANY ANGER MANAGEMENT COURSES THAT ARE HELPFUL, AS WELL AS MEDITATION, PRAYER, DEEP BREATHING AND WALKING AWAY TO COOL DOWN BEFORE FACING THE SITUATION.
ST. JOHN CHRYSOSTOM SAYS, THE CURE FOR ANGER IS COURAGE AND DID YOU KNOW THAT ST. JEROME WAS SO SWIFT TO ANGER THAT HE BECAME THE PATRON SAINT OF ANGER? I COME FROM A FAMILY OF HOT HEADED ITALIANS, SO I COULD PROBABLY WRITE A BOOK ON THE SUBJECT HA, HA, HA, HOWEVER, ANGER IN AN OF ITSELF IS NOT BAD, IT’S ACTUALLY HAS A PURPOSE MUCH LIKE FEAR WHEN USED PROPERLY. CHECK OUT WHAT ROB BELL HAS TO SAY ON THE SUBJECT.
LIKE JESUS, WE NEED TO CHANNEL THAT ANGER INTO GOOD. PERHAPS, YOU WILL FIND THESE QUOTES FROM THE EXPERTS HELPFUL.
‘There is an anger which is engendered of evil, and there is an anger engendered of good. Hastiness of temper is the cause of the evil, divine principle is the cause of the good, such as that which Phineus felt when he allayed God’s anger by the use of his own sword.’
–Pope St. Gregory the Great
”When we have to reply to anyone who has insulted us, we should be careful to do it always with meekness. A soft answer extinguishes the fire of wrath. If we feel ourselves angry, it is better for us to be silent, because we should speak amiss; when we become tranquil, we shall see that all our words were culpable.”
–Saint Alphonsus Liguori, Doctor of the Church
There are two methods to subdue anger. First, that before a person undertakes to act, he places before his mind the contumelious and sufferings which he will likely encounter, and, by reflecting on the shame borne by our Savior, prepares himself to bear them patiently. Secondly, that when we behold the excesses of others, we direct our thoughts to our own excesses, by which we offend others. This consideration of our own faults will lead us to excuse those of others. For a person who piously considers that he also has something which others must bear patiently in him will be easily disposed to bear patiently injuries he receives from others.”
–Pope Saint Gregory the Great
OPEN FLOOR: Please feel free to share how you are able to control your anger from leading you into deadly sin.